Some in recovery complain that they are easily influenced and that this is and has been a problem for them. It is as though they believe that others have some control or power over them and that they are easily influenced in what they do and think in life. The truth is that being easily influenced is a cover up for what is really going on. Being easily influenced is about wanting and trying to please other people, inorder to get the other person to like the person who does the pleasing. Doing what the other person wants, requests or demands inorder to get them to like and accept the person is what being eaily influcenced is really about. Pleasing others is not about the other person but more about the person himself, about fixing the person. If I am easily influenced then I am really trying to please another person, inorder to fix myself, to feel good about me. It is all about me regardless of whether I say so or not.
