While I believe that events or experience do not cause a belief to be created, I do believe that they do create the space for us to form or develop a thought or belief that will in turn affect our life and behavior. For example, while I can not blame my failed marriage and the divorce that took place for being the cause of the failed relationship that I had shortly after my divorce I do believe that the event of the divorce created space for me to think about and perceive relationships and in this case women in a particular way. From the perception that I formed I acted accordingly, and as a result the relationship that I had after the divorce failed. Much of what was created was about mistrust which I carried over to my new relationship. Much of what I carried over I was not aware of, as if it were hidden from me. My awareness of it is starting to surface with the assistance of counseling. Hopefully the processing and insight that I will gain from my work will help me to see differently and more adequately.
