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Learning how to take care of ourselves requires making appropriate distinctions about ourselves, others and life in general.
Learning how to take care of ourselves also involves making appropriate distinctions about ourselves, others and life in general. One distinction that is crucial for our well being is realizing how and from where much of our stress is primarily generated. While some of the stressors that we face are apart of what it is to be a human being, much of the stress that we experience is of our own creation. A great deal of the stress that we experience has its origin in our own personal story and the meaning we make about life, in the thoughts that we think. Once we understand that we are truly the cause, that we are responsible for the thoughts that we create or invent and that it is from these thoughts that much of our stress is generated, then and only then will we begin to be able to truly manage our stress and have the power to live the life that we want and love. Blaming others or situations for that which we experience will only limit our power, lead to frustration and eventually a great deal of stress.
Remember to always be aware of your expectations of others.
It is our expectations that will cause us to be emotionally upset. It is our expectations that will cause us to be frustrated and even angry. These expectations can apply to people, places and things. With respect to people, to others, we need to especially be careful of the expectations that we create. If I have an expectation that someone should be a certain way, act a certain way, then I have the possibility of being upset, of the expectation not being fulfilled and me emotionally affected. The degree of the upset will be proportional to the attachment that I have with respect to the other person. The key is not to never have expectations as to have them is part of being human. We will create expectations of others, as we will of places and things. Our transformative work is to recognize them when they are not being fulfilled and then to give them up, to let them go. Giving them up and letting them go of the expectation allows one to not be attached to the expectation, thereby avoiding being emotionally upset. Our body, how we feel, is the key to our recognition of being emotionally upset and frustrated.